My day job is advertising, and my side gig is PR but I feel like at this point I can also add Real Estate broker to my resume. My poor feet have pounded the concrete pavements of NYC in search of a decent, affordable apartment for the past two months and still yet I've found nothing!
First I needed to find a room-mate to share a 2BR with, and somehow I found what I thought was the perfect room-mate. Same age, same career/industry, same price-range, Ghanaian chic, sane and level-headed. For once the stars had aligned in my favor. Then the search for 2BR/2BA began, and its been like pulling teeth! Why 2BA? Why not a 2BR/1BA? Well here's the thing, as much as you might think you and a room-mate or potential room-mate are alike and cool, when you begin to live with a person, its a totally different ball game entirely. And sometimes the littlest things could irk either one of you make living together hell. Its for this reason that I feel like the less space shared, the better.
For example, you both have the same morning schedule and need to get into the shower at the same time. Wahala. Or its Saturday morning, roomie wants to take a shower, but shower needs cleaning and its your turn but with the way you've positioned yourself in bed, enjoying that sweet, sweet Saturday imma be a lazy bum kinda sleep, ain't nothing in the world to make you get out of bed. Especially a chore like cleaning bathrooms. Wahala. Plus everybody with their own personal hygiene preferences. U see why I really wanted a 2BA?
So na so we find, find, find, find o come decide say we go extend our search to reach Jersey City side to increase our chances of finding wetin we want. As I tanda for one apartment viewing yesterday for the Jersey City, na e one text come my phone...this my dear sent from above room-mate was breaking up with me :( lol. *sigh* The matter just tire me, e weak my body nor be small. So na back to square one. Na to either find another room-mate or find 1BR/1BA jeje, and chop all the expenses alone. *sigh* There goes all the nice things I planned to do with spare money.
Mehn, apartment hunting for this NY no be joke sha. Frustrated, tired, worn-out does not even begin to explain how I feel right now. I've literally clicked on every link on Craigslist and they've all turned purple. I can list all the apartment searching sites in my sleep.
- Craigslist
- StreetEasy
- GoNoFee
- NYTimes Real Estate
- NakedApartments
- NestSeekers
- HotPads
- ForRent
- Zillow
- ApartmentGuide
I can tell you how long some apartments have been on the market, I can spot the fake/spam postings, I can tell you which trains are close to which apartments etc lol This whole process has been a nightmare, I kid you not! I just want it to be over really. And I am taking out my frustration on The Man *sigh*. Poor guy doesn't even understand it. I just want a nice, decent place that I decorate the way I like and call home :( Is that too much to ask of you my dear New York? Lord, help me find a place. Please!
Anyway, my search continues. I just needed to vent. If you missed my post about my London Trip, you can catch up HERE with the pictures.
Hope everyone's having a great week so far. The weekend is almost here! :)
Toodles!
Hugs & Kisses,
Miss Enigma!
*BR - Bedroom
*BA - Bathroom
Wednesday, May 16, 2012
Monday, May 14, 2012
London Trip 2012
Y'ello me darlings! Happy New Week to you all! Hope everyone had a great weekend, even though it always seems to go by so quickly...and the next one seems like eons away. I had a good weekend. Kicked off on Friday by attending a friend's business 1yr anniversary and I had a good time. Happy to see her receive so much love. Saturday was spent at a funeral...it was sad, cos regardless of the fact that we know that a loved one is going to leave us some day, we can never really prepare ourselves enough. He was 80yrs old, and had lived a full life but still...when you say your final good-byes, lay the flowers, and all its still surreal...when they begin to lower the casket into the ground hian! That na different story o! You begin to reflect say na so life be o, this body, this flesh na inside ground e dey go. And life goes on! Whether we like it or not, whether at that particular point it seems impossible...truth is life goes on!
In other news, where have I been u ask? Well, I've been to London to see The Queen! :) You see, I've never really taken a vacation, because I do not consider going to Naija annually a vacation. So recently, when my Sis got her UK visa, I thought oh! this could be a chance for me to visit as well, seeing as I've never been to London either. Initially, I was hesitant. None of my friends was going with me, accommodation issues, will it be worth it? what will I do for fun there? Yadi, yadi, yada! I sha summoned up courage, God worked everything out and bam! I booked my flight! The minute I clicked 'Book Flight', there was no going back, London here I come!
After work on Thursday I headed for the airport and boarded my flight. My expectations? None whatsoever! My plan? Make the best out of the trip, after all $900 ticket no be beans! With that settled, I jejely balanced in my seat and enjoyed two movies during the flight...Mission Impossible: Ghost Protocol and Mr & Mrs Smith :). Long story short, I connected from Heathrow to Manchester spent a few nights with an old high school friend, and another old high school friend came over...we chilled, caught up, did mall waka, went to see The Vow and I became acquainted with the TV shows 'Shuga' and '4Play: Sex Tips for Girls'. I'm not a fan of Naija/African movies cos of the acting, but the acting in these two shows caught me by surprise! The actors were good! Their delivery was on point! Anyways, I digress! Manchester was nice.
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I left for Clapham on Monday and finally connected with my Sis. I saw my cousin who I hadn't seen in about ten years! Spent the day chilling, listening and dancing to Naija music and just clowning. Then Tuesday, my Sis and I waka waka'd around London town gan gan. Initially we planned on navigating all the tourist attractions by ourselves using the Underground transport but mehn by 4pm we realized we had only seen two attractions, we decided to hop on the Tour Bus! And it was worth it! We got to see everything while sitting comfortably on the double decker bus. Wish we weren't leaving the next day, would have gone on a second round of touring, but we definitely accomplished a lot in one day!
If you see the way I was chopping Nandos everyday ehn! U'll think there's no chips and chicken in this here America, but the difference is clear biko! American fries and their own nor be the same. I fell in love with Auntie Millie's Cookies (my fav is their white chocolate chip cookie) and Greggs too! Their sausage roll and chicken pie nom nom nom! Pls if anyone knows of a similar joint in Yankee that sells pastries like that let me know...it reminded me so much of Naija...till today I am huge fan of Mr. Biggs sausage roll, and scotch egg! Neways thanks to the cold and the constant chopping of ijeku je (sp?) my cavity started acting up and is hurting like a ....
I always used to think to go on a vacation you need a good number of people and alla that but mehn sometimes coordinating the schedule for more than two persons dey hard...and one person canceling can just ruin it for all. Now I know I don't need a crowd jare. Glad I went on this trip! Definitely one of the high-lights of my year! :)
Have a GREAT week everyone!!! Keep pushing! Keep working hard! Trust me people are watching and noticing your growth, even when you don't!
PS: Sorry I didn't caption the pics in the first collage...I'm tired, and have a lot to do before Sunday ends.
Hugs & Kisses,
Miss Enigma!
Monday, April 16, 2012
Mundane Mondays
Happy New Week!
How's everyone doing? Hope great! Apologies for not blogging in weeks...but I've been here reading all your posts :)
What have I been up to the past few weeks? Well let's see...
Mama turned 60! :) We had dinner with a friend of hers at this vintage-y nice restaurant (TheWaterClub.com) over looking the Hudson River. The view was really nice, and the food was good. It's always a pleasure to treat my mama. I've also noticed that lately I've just had this constant deep appreciation and admiration for her, for all she's done and continues to do. Don't get me wrong I always have, but lately just something different...maybe because I'll be moving out soon I'm noticing all the tiny things I'll miss about her and just how much of a hugeeeeee part of my life she is. :)
Work's been busy, and a little overwhelming...but lately I've been itching and twitching for a change. I think I want a new job. A different career path from what I'm currently doing. Don't get me wrong I am GRATEFUL to have this job, but I think I am slowly becoming more in tune with what my 'passion' is; what I enjoy doing and my mind is becoming restless, longing to begin a journey in that direction full time. But there's a huge change coming in the next few months thatI need to take care of God needs to help me take care of first, before I can seriously focus on this career itch.
Speaking of change, remember in my last post I mentioned that I had been waiting on something for a long, long time and that D-day was coming? Yeah, well D-day was indeed the day that the Lord made, and we rejoiced and were glad in it! We got what we were pursuing, and thanks to it distance won't be a problem much longer, if you know what I mean ;)
In other news, I am beginning to have mini quarter-life crisis outbreaks! Lol I don't know what it is about turning 25 that just makes people panic...and begin to wonder am I where I should be at this stage in my life? Should I be doing more? Have I checked off XYZ on my 'to-do-list? Is my life as I know it about to come to an end due to new responsibilities that I'm going to take on in this new phase of my life aka...marriage and kids... and we all know all the other numerous questions we ask ourselves as we approach the big 25. What are your thoughts on quarter-life crisis? How did you handle yours? Or is it just another obsession that society or maybe culture has succeeded in embedding into our subconscious?
I found this on BBM "A woman's loyalty is tested when her man has nothing. A man's loyalty is tested when he has everything". I don't know who the words are by, but I have to say this is true to a large extent. Do you agree or disagree?
Its hard when you're mad at a loved one, but you can't express that anger the way you really want to sometimes - yelling profanities, cursing and just letting it all roll of your tongue the way you want it to - because you're trying not to say something hurtful even though the origin of your anger is from them hurting/upsetting you. It sucks that it is the ones we love and care about who ultimately have the ability to hurt us more than a random stranger...such is life.
They say forgiving is easy, but forgetting is the difficult part; but how do you really forgive when you can't forget? Jesus be a fence!
Have a great week everyone!
Hugs & Kisses,
Miss Enigma!
How's everyone doing? Hope great! Apologies for not blogging in weeks...but I've been here reading all your posts :)
What have I been up to the past few weeks? Well let's see...
Mama turned 60! :) We had dinner with a friend of hers at this vintage-y nice restaurant (TheWaterClub.com) over looking the Hudson River. The view was really nice, and the food was good. It's always a pleasure to treat my mama. I've also noticed that lately I've just had this constant deep appreciation and admiration for her, for all she's done and continues to do. Don't get me wrong I always have, but lately just something different...maybe because I'll be moving out soon I'm noticing all the tiny things I'll miss about her and just how much of a hugeeeeee part of my life she is. :)
Work's been busy, and a little overwhelming...but lately I've been itching and twitching for a change. I think I want a new job. A different career path from what I'm currently doing. Don't get me wrong I am GRATEFUL to have this job, but I think I am slowly becoming more in tune with what my 'passion' is; what I enjoy doing and my mind is becoming restless, longing to begin a journey in that direction full time. But there's a huge change coming in the next few months that
Speaking of change, remember in my last post I mentioned that I had been waiting on something for a long, long time and that D-day was coming? Yeah, well D-day was indeed the day that the Lord made, and we rejoiced and were glad in it! We got what we were pursuing, and thanks to it distance won't be a problem much longer, if you know what I mean ;)
In other news, I am beginning to have mini quarter-life crisis outbreaks! Lol I don't know what it is about turning 25 that just makes people panic...and begin to wonder am I where I should be at this stage in my life? Should I be doing more? Have I checked off XYZ on my 'to-do-list? Is my life as I know it about to come to an end due to new responsibilities that I'm going to take on in this new phase of my life aka...marriage and kids... and we all know all the other numerous questions we ask ourselves as we approach the big 25. What are your thoughts on quarter-life crisis? How did you handle yours? Or is it just another obsession that society or maybe culture has succeeded in embedding into our subconscious?
I found this on BBM "A woman's loyalty is tested when her man has nothing. A man's loyalty is tested when he has everything". I don't know who the words are by, but I have to say this is true to a large extent. Do you agree or disagree?
Its hard when you're mad at a loved one, but you can't express that anger the way you really want to sometimes - yelling profanities, cursing and just letting it all roll of your tongue the way you want it to - because you're trying not to say something hurtful even though the origin of your anger is from them hurting/upsetting you. It sucks that it is the ones we love and care about who ultimately have the ability to hurt us more than a random stranger...such is life.
They say forgiving is easy, but forgetting is the difficult part; but how do you really forgive when you can't forget? Jesus be a fence!
Have a great week everyone!
Hugs & Kisses,
Miss Enigma!
Wednesday, March 14, 2012
Shame on Me...
Ahoy! How's everyone doing? Happy Hump Day to you all! Two more days till the weekend...can't really complain because the weather has been a-m-a-z-i-n-g here in NYC. Talk about upper 60's, and even 70's kinda weather...this def makes me a happy camper! Apologies for not putting up a post yesterday (Tuesday) like I've been doing for the past 2-3 weeks but I'm here now :) So let's talk me darlings...
I'm not one to go up to the pulpit or even just stand up to give testimonies in church. I get shy, and sometimes worry that it's too tiny a thing bother people with, or that there are people who might be hurting and this (my testimony) just might do more harm than good. Rewind to Dec 31st, 2011, E and I went to his church for midnight service. A very small Redeemed parish by his house, the kind where everybody pretty much knew everyone...his Mom is a worker in church too.
Come testimony time, and E's like you should go up and give thanks, it's been a good year for you. I want to, I know I should but I look around and I'm worried that I might be showing off, that in a small community where people are just managing to get by I shouldn't rub my blessings in. Next thing, two different people go up thanking God for their red passports, another for job promotions, for acceptance into college, for good health etc... *sigh* What an idiot I was! Hoarding what God had given me thinking it was 'too much', meanwhile He's doing the same and more for people who I had wrongly judged. Shame on me!
I don't jump up in church every Sunday now, but what I learnt from that day was to not be selfish with my praise and thanks to God for His blessings towards me. No matter how little (or big) I might think it is, He is worthy of ALL praise! So today, I just want to say THANK YOU Lord for giving me a job! Today makes it one year since I started working here. I interviewed for this job Dec. 2010 (a week before I graduated) but didn't get it because I was going to be away in Nigeria all of January. They hired someone else, and I came back from Nigeria and was looking elsewhere...then they called me back mid February when a second opening came up. I didn't have the experience, but they trained me on the job.
I have friends who I graduated with who still can't find jobs...and it breaks my heart! But I keep believing that their testimony will come; but I've run out of words of encouragement for them and all I can do is pray, and pray that they don't give up on themselves.
Lord, words cannot express how grateful I am for ALL that you do and have done in my life. I am undeserving, but somehow your mercy seeks me out when I cower and hide, and you shower me with your grace from day to day. Father, we do not question you nor do we doubt you but we trust in your perfect timing! While we wait for that time I beg that you please give all those waiting on you for their testimony (jobs, good health, fruit of the womb, salvation, etc) the patience and strength to keep holding on and trusting you becos sometimes it ain't easy. But with you, we shall overcome in Jesus name. Amen.
Speaking of waiting for something...I've been waiting for something for about 3+ years, and tomorrow is D day. I'm trying not freak out, or be overly anxious because it's really out of my hands lol. I've done my part; crossed my t's, dotted my i's and now (just as its always been) it's in God's hands to finish what He has started.If When all goes as planned, it'll be a new phase in my life. :)
Neways, thanks for sharing in my thankful post today :) I appreciate, and look forward to sharing in yours! Have a wonderful day, and hope you enjoy this song it's one of my current favs!!!
Hugs & Kisses,
Miss Enigma!!!
I'm not one to go up to the pulpit or even just stand up to give testimonies in church. I get shy, and sometimes worry that it's too tiny a thing bother people with, or that there are people who might be hurting and this (my testimony) just might do more harm than good. Rewind to Dec 31st, 2011, E and I went to his church for midnight service. A very small Redeemed parish by his house, the kind where everybody pretty much knew everyone...his Mom is a worker in church too.
Come testimony time, and E's like you should go up and give thanks, it's been a good year for you. I want to, I know I should but I look around and I'm worried that I might be showing off, that in a small community where people are just managing to get by I shouldn't rub my blessings in. Next thing, two different people go up thanking God for their red passports, another for job promotions, for acceptance into college, for good health etc... *sigh* What an idiot I was! Hoarding what God had given me thinking it was 'too much', meanwhile He's doing the same and more for people who I had wrongly judged. Shame on me!
I don't jump up in church every Sunday now, but what I learnt from that day was to not be selfish with my praise and thanks to God for His blessings towards me. No matter how little (or big) I might think it is, He is worthy of ALL praise! So today, I just want to say THANK YOU Lord for giving me a job! Today makes it one year since I started working here. I interviewed for this job Dec. 2010 (a week before I graduated) but didn't get it because I was going to be away in Nigeria all of January. They hired someone else, and I came back from Nigeria and was looking elsewhere...then they called me back mid February when a second opening came up. I didn't have the experience, but they trained me on the job.
I have friends who I graduated with who still can't find jobs...and it breaks my heart! But I keep believing that their testimony will come; but I've run out of words of encouragement for them and all I can do is pray, and pray that they don't give up on themselves.
Lord, words cannot express how grateful I am for ALL that you do and have done in my life. I am undeserving, but somehow your mercy seeks me out when I cower and hide, and you shower me with your grace from day to day. Father, we do not question you nor do we doubt you but we trust in your perfect timing! While we wait for that time I beg that you please give all those waiting on you for their testimony (jobs, good health, fruit of the womb, salvation, etc) the patience and strength to keep holding on and trusting you becos sometimes it ain't easy. But with you, we shall overcome in Jesus name. Amen.
Speaking of waiting for something...I've been waiting for something for about 3+ years, and tomorrow is D day. I'm trying not freak out, or be overly anxious because it's really out of my hands lol. I've done my part; crossed my t's, dotted my i's and now (just as its always been) it's in God's hands to finish what He has started.
Neways, thanks for sharing in my thankful post today :) I appreciate, and look forward to sharing in yours! Have a wonderful day, and hope you enjoy this song it's one of my current favs!!!
Hugs & Kisses,
Miss Enigma!!!
Wednesday, March 7, 2012
You Should Know That I...
Y'ello there...
How's everyone doing? Hope your week has been great so far!
Me? Well I'm aiight, I'm alive and THANKFUL! I can't complain.
I got nominated by two bloggers for the Versatile Blogger award, which simply requires me to share 7 random things about myself, thank the bloggers who nominated me and then continue the chain by nominating 15 bloggers. Well before I share my randoms, I wanna say thank you to MsInfamous and Chocolate Diva ...I appreciate. Since I'm not sure which blogger has already done this, I'm going to simply just keep the nominations open to every and any one who is interested. If you would like to do this, go ahead and consider yourself nominated! :) On that note, here we go:
- Mushrooms: I don't eat mushrooms. I don't know what they taste like, but I think I've been scared with seeing mushrooms grow on trees, and random gross places in Nigeria that I just don't even want to try 'em.
- Rings: Cocktail rings. I love 'em. They add personality, and spunk to an outfit, whether simple or heavily dressed. I can't wait to have enough dresser space to put up a nice jewelry box to display my rings. Here are a few in my collection:
- Tear-fall: I try to put up a tough-skin, but I'm such a softie. It's either that or my tear ducts are over active, because I tear up so much! Watching Grey's Anatomy, Private Practice, Extreme Home Makeover, romantic movies, even the episode of RHOA when Kim's daughter spoke about how nice a guy Troy was and yadi yadi yada at the baby shower, I cried with them. But when it comes to my personal stuff, I hold it in and try to be tough till I've reached my breaking point then I breakdown in tears.
- Books: The last book I read was The Help. I enjoyed it. I used to read a lot of books in high-school, but I lost my reading mojo, and I've never been able to get it back. I keep asking for people to recommend good reads for me. Nothing dreary or dark. I want inspiring, happy, comedic or entrepreneur related books please! Thanks.
- Talk: Ok don't freak out about this, but I would like to talk to a therapist sometime. I know we Nigerians have this biased view of therapy sessions, and all but I wanna try it. Just sitting down, talking to a total stranger, and unloading on them...no worries of being judged (I have no personal attachment to them so whether they judge inwardly or not ain't my business) or criticized. I guess I watch wayyy too much Private Practice huh? lol
- Ride: I don't think I know how to ride a bicycle x_x. I never got to take off the training wheels on my bike then for fear of falling of and hurting myself. I wish I had a brother or male cousins around (more often) when I was growing up who would have forced me to be a lil' more daring :) Now I wish I could ride...maybe this Summer...maybe.
- Travel: I love to travel but I never do. Initially, I couldn't afford it, now I can save up and travel but getting my friends to want to go na problem. This will sound silly, but I'll be hesitant to get married if I haven't traveled/visited a few places first. Why? Because I don't want to get married and get tied up with raising a family, work, wife duties that we won't be able to travel due to schedule, finances and all that other stuff. Call me crazy, but we must do some traveling first, so it becomes a habit before we build our family and then we can go on family vacations once a year...even if its a road trip. I want my children to want to explore and expand more than I did. Considering a St Thomas, Virgin Islands trip this year :)
- "Kk": I just can't with this! I don't mind when a person responds with 'Kk', I use it sometimes too, but what ticks me the f*** off is when I say 'Ok', and the person responds with 'Kk'! Like what are Kk-ing to?! Ughhhhh! Let me give you an example:
X: Heyy, what are you up to?
Y: Nothing much, just got home need to grab something to eat i'm hungry
X: Oh ok
Y: Kk
Responding to Ok with Kk is a no-no. Respond with something else or don't respond at all...or if you're busy or not in the mood to talk let the other person know. This just really annoys me lol and gets me so mad don't know why.
Anyways, there you go guys! 7 random things! If you wanna do this feel free to! It's Wednesday guys, two more days till the weekend. :)
Have a great day!
Hugs & Kisses,
Miss Enigma!
How's everyone doing? Hope your week has been great so far!
Me? Well I'm aiight, I'm alive and THANKFUL! I can't complain.
I got nominated by two bloggers for the Versatile Blogger award, which simply requires me to share 7 random things about myself, thank the bloggers who nominated me and then continue the chain by nominating 15 bloggers. Well before I share my randoms, I wanna say thank you to MsInfamous and Chocolate Diva ...I appreciate. Since I'm not sure which blogger has already done this, I'm going to simply just keep the nominations open to every and any one who is interested. If you would like to do this, go ahead and consider yourself nominated! :) On that note, here we go:
- Mushrooms: I don't eat mushrooms. I don't know what they taste like, but I think I've been scared with seeing mushrooms grow on trees, and random gross places in Nigeria that I just don't even want to try 'em.
- Rings: Cocktail rings. I love 'em. They add personality, and spunk to an outfit, whether simple or heavily dressed. I can't wait to have enough dresser space to put up a nice jewelry box to display my rings. Here are a few in my collection:
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| Looking to expand and add...elephants, flowers, butterflies etc |
- Tear-fall: I try to put up a tough-skin, but I'm such a softie. It's either that or my tear ducts are over active, because I tear up so much! Watching Grey's Anatomy, Private Practice, Extreme Home Makeover, romantic movies, even the episode of RHOA when Kim's daughter spoke about how nice a guy Troy was and yadi yadi yada at the baby shower, I cried with them. But when it comes to my personal stuff, I hold it in and try to be tough till I've reached my breaking point then I breakdown in tears.
- Books: The last book I read was The Help. I enjoyed it. I used to read a lot of books in high-school, but I lost my reading mojo, and I've never been able to get it back. I keep asking for people to recommend good reads for me. Nothing dreary or dark. I want inspiring, happy, comedic or entrepreneur related books please! Thanks.
- Talk: Ok don't freak out about this, but I would like to talk to a therapist sometime. I know we Nigerians have this biased view of therapy sessions, and all but I wanna try it. Just sitting down, talking to a total stranger, and unloading on them...no worries of being judged (I have no personal attachment to them so whether they judge inwardly or not ain't my business) or criticized. I guess I watch wayyy too much Private Practice huh? lol
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- Ride: I don't think I know how to ride a bicycle x_x. I never got to take off the training wheels on my bike then for fear of falling of and hurting myself. I wish I had a brother or male cousins around (more often) when I was growing up who would have forced me to be a lil' more daring :) Now I wish I could ride...maybe this Summer...maybe.
- Travel: I love to travel but I never do. Initially, I couldn't afford it, now I can save up and travel but getting my friends to want to go na problem. This will sound silly, but I'll be hesitant to get married if I haven't traveled/visited a few places first. Why? Because I don't want to get married and get tied up with raising a family, work, wife duties that we won't be able to travel due to schedule, finances and all that other stuff. Call me crazy, but we must do some traveling first, so it becomes a habit before we build our family and then we can go on family vacations once a year...even if its a road trip. I want my children to want to explore and expand more than I did. Considering a St Thomas, Virgin Islands trip this year :)
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- "Kk": I just can't with this! I don't mind when a person responds with 'Kk', I use it sometimes too, but what ticks me the f*** off is when I say 'Ok', and the person responds with 'Kk'! Like what are Kk-ing to?! Ughhhhh! Let me give you an example:
X: Heyy, what are you up to?
Y: Nothing much, just got home need to grab something to eat i'm hungry
X: Oh ok
Y: Kk
Responding to Ok with Kk is a no-no. Respond with something else or don't respond at all...or if you're busy or not in the mood to talk let the other person know. This just really annoys me lol and gets me so mad don't know why.
Anyways, there you go guys! 7 random things! If you wanna do this feel free to! It's Wednesday guys, two more days till the weekend. :)
Have a great day!
Hugs & Kisses,
Miss Enigma!
Tuesday, February 28, 2012
Thirsty Tuesdays II
Y'ello
How's everyone's week going so far? Hope great! So it's a bit slow here on the 9 - 5 so I decided to quickly crank out a post before I succumb to laziness and not update le blog. :)
I can't believe February is over! I mean it was just Valentine's day two days ago...no? Wow...time is going by fast sha.
Over the weekend it was a friend's birthday, and her closest friends organized a surprise b'day party! *sigh* I love surprises...and a surprise party would be nice. Just knowing that people took out time, funds and effort to organize something really nice for you is a great feeling. To be loved, is a great feeling.
So, even though my b'day is 4 months away it got me thinking, what am I doing for my b'day this year...I mean after-all it is the "Big 25!" *sigh* I amgetting old! (But, I don't look it, did I tell y'all I got carded at the movie theatre about 3weeks ago) Anyways, my friends say it's gonna be hard to top my last b'day on the Party Bus (catch up here), which everyone agrees was the best party of the year!! I was sooo happy that day! Well so far the options we're playing around with are; a destination party, roof-top themed party, boat cruise party. The themed party is my favorite/most reasonably priced for now :) Time will tell...
Still on birthdays...it's my friend's 23rd this coming weekend. I don't know what to get her! I need suggestions PLEASE! Like I'm totally clueless! Like I can't think of something that she's really crazy about...or something that she likes to collect. This is hard! :(
Stilllll on birthdays...(this is the last I promise!) it's my Mom's birthday in about 3 weeks...no clue as to what to get her either. What do you get someone who doesn't know how to do for herself, but just gives, gives, gives...my Mom gets more happiness from making sure others are happy. I'm not kidding you! I want to get her a spa date, but getting her to actually gooo to the spa na wahala! Mommie is gonna be 60! Lord please loooong life and good health for her! Amen.
What would you do if you found yourself in love with your best-friend's fiance who initially was your casual platonic friend first, before he/she started dating your best-friend?
I watched the movie Something Borrowed over the weekend, and that was the story...and some of us were conflicted on the issue. Do you lose your friend of since primary school/high school/college over a guy? Or do you pick your friendship over a guy who could possibly be "the one" (Note that by "the one" I believe that we can be compatible with more than one person, but what if this guy is your 95% match, and every other guy would probably be 70 - 80% match...hope this makes sense?) What would you do?
On last week's episode of Private Practice, Jake Reilly told Allison Montgomery (and I'm paraphrasing)...When I'm in a relationship, I go all in. No buts, what ifs or maybe. I've been there, done that and I'm done playing games because I know what love is, and I know how it feels to lose it. I'm a good man, but you're not ready for what I have to offer. You say you want me, but you're still pinning after another man...and until you're ready for all of this and me, I'm not going to have sex with you or become an item with you.
...This just got me wondering, sometimes people say I want to be in a relationship, I want a man, I want a girl-friend, but are we really ready for what commitment entails? In Allison's case, its the fact that she's still stuck on her ex, but at the same time sees a good guy that she wants. For other people it could just be being mentally ready to share your life with another. It's no longer me, me, me...are you ready for 'us'? Are you financially ready to handle 'us'? Even spiritually, when you pray or you're trying to do better in your faith you can't just focus on you alone, you intercede on the other person's behalf too...'us'? Career growth you have to carry each other along regardless of the different paths you're on, you need to support, encourage and motivate each other...'us'? Personal interests and past times; sure watching Soccer isn't your thing but it's his so you find a way to either like it or just respect it (Eg #TeamArsenal by boyfriend lol)...no selfishness...'us'?
So yeah you get my point...it's great to have a man/woman and to be in a relationship, but are you really ready for #TeamUs? If you are not, I say enjoy singledom...enjoy your space...enjoy not having to check in with anyone...and when you are ready, then you can join TeamUs. Hope this makes this sha.
Let me know your thoughts guys...
Have a great week guys!!!
Hugs & Kisses,
Miss Enigma!
How's everyone's week going so far? Hope great! So it's a bit slow here on the 9 - 5 so I decided to quickly crank out a post before I succumb to laziness and not update le blog. :)
I can't believe February is over! I mean it was just Valentine's day two days ago...no? Wow...time is going by fast sha.
Over the weekend it was a friend's birthday, and her closest friends organized a surprise b'day party! *sigh* I love surprises...and a surprise party would be nice. Just knowing that people took out time, funds and effort to organize something really nice for you is a great feeling. To be loved, is a great feeling.
So, even though my b'day is 4 months away it got me thinking, what am I doing for my b'day this year...I mean after-all it is the "Big 25!" *sigh* I am
Still on birthdays...it's my friend's 23rd this coming weekend. I don't know what to get her! I need suggestions PLEASE! Like I'm totally clueless! Like I can't think of something that she's really crazy about...or something that she likes to collect. This is hard! :(
Stilllll on birthdays...(this is the last I promise!) it's my Mom's birthday in about 3 weeks...no clue as to what to get her either. What do you get someone who doesn't know how to do for herself, but just gives, gives, gives...my Mom gets more happiness from making sure others are happy. I'm not kidding you! I want to get her a spa date, but getting her to actually gooo to the spa na wahala! Mommie is gonna be 60! Lord please loooong life and good health for her! Amen.
What would you do if you found yourself in love with your best-friend's fiance who initially was your casual platonic friend first, before he/she started dating your best-friend?
I watched the movie Something Borrowed over the weekend, and that was the story...and some of us were conflicted on the issue. Do you lose your friend of since primary school/high school/college over a guy? Or do you pick your friendship over a guy who could possibly be "the one" (Note that by "the one" I believe that we can be compatible with more than one person, but what if this guy is your 95% match, and every other guy would probably be 70 - 80% match...hope this makes sense?) What would you do?
On last week's episode of Private Practice, Jake Reilly told Allison Montgomery (and I'm paraphrasing)...When I'm in a relationship, I go all in. No buts, what ifs or maybe. I've been there, done that and I'm done playing games because I know what love is, and I know how it feels to lose it. I'm a good man, but you're not ready for what I have to offer. You say you want me, but you're still pinning after another man...and until you're ready for all of this and me, I'm not going to have sex with you or become an item with you.
...This just got me wondering, sometimes people say I want to be in a relationship, I want a man, I want a girl-friend, but are we really ready for what commitment entails? In Allison's case, its the fact that she's still stuck on her ex, but at the same time sees a good guy that she wants. For other people it could just be being mentally ready to share your life with another. It's no longer me, me, me...are you ready for 'us'? Are you financially ready to handle 'us'? Even spiritually, when you pray or you're trying to do better in your faith you can't just focus on you alone, you intercede on the other person's behalf too...'us'? Career growth you have to carry each other along regardless of the different paths you're on, you need to support, encourage and motivate each other...'us'? Personal interests and past times; sure watching Soccer isn't your thing but it's his so you find a way to either like it or just respect it (Eg #TeamArsenal by boyfriend lol)...no selfishness...'us'?
So yeah you get my point...it's great to have a man/woman and to be in a relationship, but are you really ready for #TeamUs? If you are not, I say enjoy singledom...enjoy your space...enjoy not having to check in with anyone...and when you are ready, then you can join TeamUs. Hope this makes this sha.
Let me know your thoughts guys...
Have a great week guys!!!
Hugs & Kisses,
Miss Enigma!
Tuesday, February 21, 2012
Thirsty Tuesdays
Hello Darlings!
Happy New Week! Hope everyone is having a great day so far.
Thank you for all your kind words on my last post about Our Anniversary. I appreciate!
I had a really good weekend, I got to hangout with my entire family of friends on Saturday for a friend's birthday dinner and after-party. It was the first time I was out partying this year and I had a good time. But came down with a cold the next day. Thank God Monday was a holiday, so I stayed indoors recuperating and sneezing like a sneeze machine. *sigh*
So on my way out on Saturday, at the very last minute I decided to change my outfit because it was too predictable for me. Simple black dress, with a red blazer and red lip-stick and this year, I've sworn to step out my comfort zone a lil' bit and try new things. So I switched to denim shirt, short black flared skirt... only to get to the dinner and my really close friend/sister from another Mother arrives in a black dress and red blazer!!! I'm like this is why we are friends, our dress styles are sooo similar simply and nice but too darn predictable lol so glad I changed my mind last minute. Even in Naij during Christmas hols we ended up wearing the same outfit, same colors out one day and it was totally unplanned! *sigh* lol
Now I understand why some people prefer to not date within their circle of friends. It's not easy to see a babe you once liked, still like talking to other guys and you have to pretend like you don't notice, or that everything's great and you are not inwardly pained lol. Or when the guy you like, once liked, or your ex is chatting up another girl, and you have to pretend like the party is ohh soo great! And your having the time of your life when you really are not lol. The woes of dating...it ain't easy, but we all get over it with time.
Its funny how most times, people are able to give reasonable, level-headed relationship advice to their friends, co-workers etc, but when they find themselves in similar situations, they find it hard to apply what they've recommended to others. Most cases they know what action they shd take or what needs to be said/done but find it hard to actually do it. Matters of the heart can be paralyzing at times.
How old is too old to date? What's your limit?
Would you date someone whom you don't have any likes/fun-activities in common? And what's the one thing
The weather in NY this week is divine! 60 degrees in February?!?! Thank you Lord! Speaking of this city, have I told you all how ard it is to find a decent apartment on a budget? Chai! Odikwa very hard! But I'll find one in due time! Amen.
I just discovered Godiva Milk Chocolate...love it!!!
Aiight that's it folks! Have a great day everyone!
PS: The post title has nothing to do with the post lol I just didn't know what else to call it and I didn't want to call it Random :)
Hugs & Kisses,
Miss Enigma!
Happy New Week! Hope everyone is having a great day so far.
Thank you for all your kind words on my last post about Our Anniversary. I appreciate!
I had a really good weekend, I got to hangout with my entire family of friends on Saturday for a friend's birthday dinner and after-party. It was the first time I was out partying this year and I had a good time. But came down with a cold the next day. Thank God Monday was a holiday, so I stayed indoors recuperating and sneezing like a sneeze machine. *sigh*
So on my way out on Saturday, at the very last minute I decided to change my outfit because it was too predictable for me. Simple black dress, with a red blazer and red lip-stick and this year, I've sworn to step out my comfort zone a lil' bit and try new things. So I switched to denim shirt, short black flared skirt... only to get to the dinner and my really close friend/sister from another Mother arrives in a black dress and red blazer!!! I'm like this is why we are friends, our dress styles are sooo similar simply and nice but too darn predictable lol so glad I changed my mind last minute. Even in Naij during Christmas hols we ended up wearing the same outfit, same colors out one day and it was totally unplanned! *sigh* lol
Now I understand why some people prefer to not date within their circle of friends. It's not easy to see a babe you once liked, still like talking to other guys and you have to pretend like you don't notice, or that everything's great and you are not inwardly pained lol. Or when the guy you like, once liked, or your ex is chatting up another girl, and you have to pretend like the party is ohh soo great! And your having the time of your life when you really are not lol. The woes of dating...it ain't easy, but we all get over it with time.
Its funny how most times, people are able to give reasonable, level-headed relationship advice to their friends, co-workers etc, but when they find themselves in similar situations, they find it hard to apply what they've recommended to others. Most cases they know what action they shd take or what needs to be said/done but find it hard to actually do it. Matters of the heart can be paralyzing at times.
How old is too old to date? What's your limit?
Would you date someone whom you don't have any likes/fun-activities in common? And what's the one thing
The weather in NY this week is divine! 60 degrees in February?!?! Thank you Lord! Speaking of this city, have I told you all how ard it is to find a decent apartment on a budget? Chai! Odikwa very hard! But I'll find one in due time! Amen.
I just discovered Godiva Milk Chocolate...love it!!!
Aiight that's it folks! Have a great day everyone!
PS: The post title has nothing to do with the post lol I just didn't know what else to call it and I didn't want to call it Random :)
Hugs & Kisses,
Miss Enigma!
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